The way to win me over is: how to answer it (with examples)
By the bestsideofyou teamLast updated
“The way to win me over is” tells people what matters to you, so make it something a person could actually do. A specific, achievable gesture reads as warm and confident; a list of virtues reads as a job ad. The best answers are small enough that the reader could do it in their first message.
What this prompt reveals about you
What you value, and how demanding you are about it. It shows whether you lead with humor or sincerity, and it hints at how you'll be in a relationship. Because it describes the other person's part, tone matters: playful conditions feel inviting, long requirements feel like a test.
8 example answers
Illustrative examples written by us, not real profiles.
Knowing which seat on the bus has the good window. I'll pretend I'm not impressed. I will be.
Remembering the name of my sister's dog. His name is Biscuit. You now have an unfair advantage.
Beating me at chess. Nobody has since 2019. Bring your best opening and a snack, it'll take a while.
Texting “home safe” without me asking. It's a low bar. Somehow it's also the whole thing.
Asking about my pizza dough. Three days to rise, and I'll talk about it for at least four minutes.
Planning the first date. I'll plan the second. Let's see who wins.
Not reading the last page of a book first. I've lost friendships over this. Well, one.
Sending me a song you think I'd like. I'll listen twice and tell you honestly. I make playlists for people I like.
Common mistakes
Be kind, honest and make me laugh.
Make me laugh in the first message. Bonus points for a pun about bread. I'm a baker; I've heard most of them.
Everyone wants kindness and humor. Name one thing someone could do, and tie it to your life.
Good food, good wine, good conversation.
Knowing a taco truck I haven't tried yet. I thought I'd been to all of them in Austin. Prove me wrong.
A list of nice things isn't a way to win you over. Turn it into a small challenge.
Don't be fake. No games.
Asking a real question back. I'll always ask one too. That's most of the game.
Rules in the negative read as defensive. Say what you want instead of what you don't.
Pair it with
This prompt asks something of the reader, so balance it with prompts that give: a story, a habit, a place.
- I'm in my element when
- I go crazy for
- Together, we could
- Two truths and a lie
- A photo: candid, mid-laugh. Shows what you are like when you are not posing. Ask a friend to talk to you while they shoot.
- A photo: a place that matters to you. Your local café, your allotment, your Sunday route. Gives someone a first-date idea.
More on building the whole profile: How to improve your Hinge profile.
Questions people ask
Is it okay to be demanding in this prompt?
One clear, playful condition works. A list of requirements usually reads as a checklist people don't want to be graded on.
Should I mention food?
Food works when it's specific: a dish, a place, a ritual. “Feed me” on its own is one of the most common answers.
Can it be sincere instead of funny?
Yes. A small, honest gesture you value is often the most attractive answer. Keep it concrete.