The best way to ask me out is by: how to answer it (with examples)
By the bestsideofyou teamLast updated
“The best way to ask me out is by” is a gift to the other person: tell them exactly how to ask, and make it something they could do in one message. A specific, fun suggestion (a place, a question, a format) beats a list of conditions.
What this prompt reveals about you
How you like to be approached and what kind of first date you'd enjoy. A good answer lowers the pressure for both of you and shows your personality at the same time.
8 example answers
Illustrative examples written by us, not real profiles.
Suggesting a specific bakery. I'm easy to win with a cinnamon bun and a walk.
Just asking. Day, time, place. I love a plan. I'll say yes faster than you think.
Sending me a list of three restaurants ranked by how good their bread is. I'll pick.
Inviting me to something you already love doing. Your climbing gym, your quiz night, your favorite trail.
Challenging me to mini golf. I'm terrible. I take it extremely seriously.
Using a full sentence and at least one question mark.
Telling me about a dish you think I'd like and offering to take me to the place that does it best.
Sending a voice note. I'll reply with one. We'll be on a date by Thursday.
Common mistakes
Being a gentleman.
Picking a place you love and telling me why. I'm happy to go anywhere with a good story.
Vague expectations read as rules. Give a concrete suggestion.
Just ask lol
Asking me to the Saturday market. I'll buy the coffees if you find the best cheese stall.
“Just ask” is fine, but a specific idea is much easier to act on.
Don't be boring.
Suggesting something we can do with our hands: pottery, bowling, pancakes. Talking is easier that way.
Negative instructions put people off. Say what you'd like instead.
Pair it with
A photo from a place you'd love to be asked to makes the suggestion feel real.
- Together, we could
- First round is on me if
- I know the best spot in town for
- A photo: candid, mid-laugh. Shows what you are like when you are not posing. Ask a friend to talk to you while they shoot.
- A photo: a place that matters to you. Your local café, your allotment, your Sunday route. Gives someone a first-date idea.
More on building the whole profile: How to improve your Hinge profile.
Questions people ask
Is this prompt too demanding?
Not if your answer is easy to do. Make it a suggestion, not a rule.
Should I suggest a specific place?
Yes, if you can. It makes saying yes almost effortless.
What if I'm shy?
Suggest something low-key, like a walk or a coffee. It's still a clear signal.